Hello, my name is Ms. Wittams-Howarth.

Welcome to today's lesson on making new friends.

The lesson today might have some difficult bits, and so it is recommended that you have a trusted adult with you.

If at any point you're finding the lesson difficult or uncomfortable, pause the video and talk to that adult.

Let's get started.

The outcome of today's lesson is, I can explain how I can make new friends safely.

Before we get into the lesson properly, let's have a look at some ground rules.

These are to keep everyone safe.

Laura says, "Listen to others.

It is okay to disagree with each other, but we should listen properly before making assumptions or deciding how to respond.

When disagreeing, we should challenge the statement and not the person." Andeep says, "Respect privacy.

We can discuss examples, but do not use names or descriptions that identify anyone including ourselves." A good top tip is to say, my friend, and then we don't know whether you are talking about yourself, someone you've seen online or in a film.

We don't know if it's a friend or someone who lives down the road.

It keeps everybody nice and anonymous and nice and safe.

Izzy says that, "You can choose your level of participation.

Everyone has the right to choose not to answer a question or join in discussion.

We never put anyone on the spot." And that includes any adults who are with you.

And lastly, Jacob said that, "There is no judgement.

We can explore beliefs and misunderstandings about a topic without the fear of being judged." That also means that there's no such thing as a silly question.

If you've got a question that you want answering, I'm sure that there'll be plenty of other people around you who also want that question answered.

So please feel free to ask those questions.

Let's crack on.

We've got keywords in today's lesson.

You will find them highlighted in bold throughout so you can spot them easily.

The first one is friendship, and that means a relationship between two or more people who care about and support each other.

Secondly, we've got online safety, and that means being aware of the dangers or threats you could encounter when online.

And then thirdly we've got communication.

The exchange of words, either verbal or written to express thoughts, feelings, and ideas.

Our lesson's got three parts today, and they are, what do I want in a friendship, where and how can I make new friends safely? And, why is it unsafe to make new friends online? Let's start with the first part of the lesson.

What do I want in a friendship? What do I want in a friendship? Laura, Izzy and Jun are talking about friendships.

Laura says, "A friendship is a relationship between two or more people who care about and support each other." Izzy says, "All of my friends are really different.

One of my friends is really loud and funny, whilst my best friend is quiet and always kind." And Jun says, "Same here! I even have a friend who I rarely see because they live so far away." Let's do a check.

How well have you been listening? I wonder whose definition of friendship is correct.

Let's have a look.

You're gonna have a moment to decide and then we'll take some feedback.

So Aisha says, "A relationship between two or more people who see each other all the time." Andeep says, "A relationship between two or more people who care about and support each other." And Jacob says, "A relationship between two or more people that never changes." Who's right, have a think.

So if you said Andeep's definition, a relationship between two or more people who care about and support each other, you'd be right.

Really well done, great listening.

So some features of a healthy friendship might include respect, they include boundaries, they include kindness and honesty and trust.

We'll go on to have a look at these in more detail in a moment.

We should expect a friendship to display positive behaviours that exemplify or show the features of a healthy friendship.

So let's unpack that a bit more.

Positive behaviours that might exemplify or show respect include things like valuing other people's opinions even if they're different to your own.

Being polite, appreciation.

So saying thank you if your friend's done something or appreciating who they are and how they are.

Positive behaviours that might exemplify boundaries include having time apart and talking about that and saying, "Oh, you know, I need some time to myself to do my homework." Or you know, "I'm gonna see my family." Saying no and respecting the other person saying no, they're really important things.

Positive behaviours that might exemplify or show kindness include supportive words, maybe encouraging your friend.

Thoughtful gestures, maybe, I don't know, if they're late for lunch, holding a place in the lunch que for them, or letting them borrow a book that you've read that you think they might enjoy.

Celebrating success even if you haven't been as successful as them, but telling them well done and being pleased for them if they have made an achievement.

Positive behaviours that might exemplify honesty include being truthful, communicating.

So being able to talk about your thoughts and feelings and what you need.

Positive behaviours that might exemplify trust include, keeping a secret and only if it's safe to do so.

Never keep secrets if they put you or someone else at risk.

Being loyal to your friend, sticking up for them, not badmouthing them behind their back.

Let's do another check.

How well have you been listening? What's the missing word in this sentence? A friendship should display something behaviours that exemplify the features of a healthy relationship.

Take a moment, have a think what that word should be, we'll take feedback in a second.

So if you said positive, you'd be absolutely right, well done.

Let's have a look at what behaviours are important to Izzy.

She says, "In my closest friendships, I'm able to communicate my thoughts, both good and bad, knowing I will be fully supported and understood." So for Izzy good communication is really important in Izzy's friendship as it's a way of showing kindness and respect.

What about for Jacob? What positive behaviours does Jacob display in his friendship and why? He says, "I always try to congratulate my best friend when they do really well at school, even if I haven't." Celebrating the success of a friend is a way that Jacob shows kindness and respect in his friendships.

And how about Jun? What does he say? He says, "It's really important to me that my friends are able to give me time out when I need it." Friends, giving Jun time and space is really important to him, and it helps demonstrate their respect for his boundaries.

So Megan, age 12 talks about what she looks for in a friendship.

Are they all positive behaviours? Let's think.

I always look for a friend who just gets my sense of humour, whether it's silly jokes or those random moments when we both find something funny for no reason.

I love friends who don't take life too seriously, who can turn a boring day into something fun just by being themselves.

But more than that, I want a friend who's kind and honest and always there for me.

And what does Isaac say? Isaac says that he wants a friend who's just there when I need them, even if we can't see each other often.

Sometimes I can call when I'm feeling overwhelmed and they won't judge me for it.

I don't always need to talk about what's on my mind.

I just want someone to chat to so I can clear my head and not feel like I have to pretend things are fine.

A friend who gets that sometimes silence is okay, and just having someone around makes things better.

And then we have Jay who's 14.

"I want a friend who's always up for a good time.

Someone I can just message and say, let's go do something and they're in.

Whether it's playing sport or just hanging around and chatting or going to a party.

A friend who's always laughing, making jokes and just enjoys life.

Let's do a check.

A friendship can be between people who don't live near you.

True or false? Have a little think and then we'll take feedback in a moment.

If you said true, you'd be absolutely right.

Friends can live really close to you.

You might see them every day or they can live a lot further away from you and you might not see them very often at all.

They can still be your friend.

And here's another check.

Complete the sentence with the missing key word.

Good something is important in a healthy friendship.

Have a think.

Fill in the missing word, we'll take feedback in a moment.

So if you said communication, you'd be absolutely right.

Really well done.

Here's a task for you now.

The first part of the task, I would like you to identify three positive behaviours that Amira expects from her friendships.

The second part of the task is to describe three different positive behaviours that you expect in a friendship.

So Amira says, "I want a friend who truly listens to me.

Someone who asks me questions about my culture and values, and wants to understand the things that matter most to me.

A friend who respects me when I say no, especially when it comes to something that might go against my beliefs." So a reminder of what you need to do.

Identify three positive behaviours that Amira expects from her friendships.

And then I would like you to describe three positive behaviours that you expect in a friendship.

What I suggest you do is you pause the recording, have a go at this task, and then we'll take feedback in a few moments time when you've had chance to have a go.

Let's go.

So let's have a look at some feedback now.

The three positive behaviours that Amira expects from her friendships include active listening, showing a desire to learn and understand more about her and giving her space to make her own decisions.

Well done if you've got those three.

So let's think about three things that you might say that you expect in a friendship.

Here's an example of something that you could have said, but there are lots of other things you could have said as well.

In a friendship, I expect great communication, supporting each other by being available during a hard time and celebrating each other's successes.

So well done having a go at this task and having a think about what you value in a healthy friendship.

We're moving on to the second part of the lesson now.

Where and how can I make new friends safely? So there are lots of places that you can make new friends, even if you don't see your friends frequently.

There are loads of different places where you can make new friends.

Let's have a look at some.

So for example, school and educational activities.

So maybe clubs at lunchtime in your form groups, in your lessons.

You might make friends at community and religious groups.

You might make friends doing extracurricular activities, those things that you do in your spare time.

Let's do a check.

To make new friends, you have to see them frequently.

True or false? We'll take feedback in a moment.

If you said false, you'd be right.

Let's find out why.

You can make new friends with someone that you see infrequently.

You don't have to see friends all the time in order to be friends.

What are the different ways that Laura and Andeep have safely made friends in school? Laura, "Since joining my school, I have made friends both in my class and across my year by being part of the school football team." Andeep says, "I've made friends across the school since being elected to the school council and have a great group of friends from the debate society." So both of them have made friends by doing some extra things, so joining in societies and clubs and also from the classes that they're in as well.

In which different community and religious groups has Lucas made new friends safely.

I'm really actively involved in my local community, at my local youth group, I've made friends through the support we've given to a local animal welfare charity.

While I don't have a specific religion, I've made new friends from all different backgrounds at Scouts where we share lots of similar interests and enjoy participating in lots of different activities.

So Lucas gets involved in his local community and he's joined an extracurricular activity.

What about Sofia? What extracurricular activities has Sofia made new friends safely.

"I have met most of my new friends at orchestra.

I play the piano, but love to hear my friends practise their instruments.

Occasionally, I also help backstage my local community theatre.

It's a great way to make new friends and have fun.

How have Lucas, Sofia and Alex made new friendships? "I have bonded with my friends over our mutual love of animals." "It's fun backstage talking about the plays we love to watch." "Playing football is a great way to make new friends.

We chat about our teams and how to keep fit." Really great examples there.

I wonder if you've made friends in those ways too.

Lucas, Sofia and Alex have all made new friendships by talking about shared interests or experiences.

You could also bond over interest in sports, interest in books, interest in films and TV, your religion, your culture, your worldview, maybe other shared experiences too.

What shared interests or experiences have helped you to make friends? Have a think.

Let's do a check how well have you been listening? Who is explaining where and how you can make new friends? Aisha says, "I've made my closest friends by chatting about the latest stories we are reading." Andeep says, "At our local youth group I enjoy chatting with my friends who I learn karate with." And Izzy says, "My friends and I share an interest in music and enjoy listening together." Let's have a think.

We'll take feedback in a moment.

Andeep, Andeep talks about going to his youth group and enjoying chatting with visit with his friends who he learns karate with.

Now I have another task for you here.

What I would like you to do, first of all, is to give three examples of places that you can make new friends.

Secondly, I would like you to explain how you might be able to make friends with people at each of those different places.

What I would like you to do is pause the screen, have a go at both of these tasks and we'll take feedback in a few minutes.

So you might have said in answer to the first part of the task, give three examples of places you can make new friends.

You might have said school clubs such as the debate society, steel pans, or eco-council.

You might have talked about community or religious groups such as scouts or guides, or you might talk about going to temple or a local charity event.

You also might have mentioned extracurricular activities such as an athletics club, art classes, ballet, music.

Really well done, great work.

Let's take some feedback for the second part of the task now.

Explain how you might be able to make friends with people at these different places.

You might have said, we can make new friends by talking about and enjoying shared experiences and interests.

For example, at athletics Club, you might be able to chat about the shared enjoyment of the Olympic games or an athletics competition that you recently watched or participated in.

Great work for saying anything along those lines.

Really well done, great thinking.

Let's do the last part of the lesson now.

Why is it unsafe to make new friends online? Most online games and apps have various communication features.

They can include text conversations, voice conversations and video and image sharing.

Communication can take place with someone that we don't know online.

Communicating with someone we don't know online is unsafe if we don't know them in real life as well.

Laura, "We don't really know who we are speaking to online.

That means they could be anyone." Andeep says, "That's right, even if we think someone is a friend, the person we are talking to online might just be pretending to be our friend." "Sometimes you can be added to a new group or receive messages from someone when you haven't even contacted them before.

They could say anything to you." "When we are online, someone might ask us to share personal information with them.

This is not safe to do and you should tell a trusted adult straight away if this happens." Let's do a check.

How well have you been listening? Who is correct? Aisha says, "Making new friends online is unsafe." Andeep says, "You always know who you are talking to online." And Jacob says, "It is not possible to speak to people online that you don't know." Have a little think, we'll take feedback in a moment.

So of course, Aisha's right? Making new friends online is unsafe, well done.

Online safety is extremely important.

If you ever feel pressured or uncomfortable online, make sure that you speak to a trusted adult.

And that could be a parent or carer, it could be a teacher at school, or another trusted adult that you know, but do make sure you talk to somebody.

Let's do a check.

How well have you been listening? Complete the following sentence.

If you ever feel pressured or uncomfortable online, make sure you speak to a trusted, fill in the blank.

Have a little think what word's gonna go in there? We'll take feedback in a moment.

So if you said adult, you'd be absolutely right.

Really well done.

And we have another task.

What I would like you to do here is in one paragraph, I'd like you to explain why it is unsafe to make new friends online.

There's a list of words that you can use to help you.

I'd like you to try and use them in your answer.

So try and use the words online, safety, communication, personal information, trusted adult, group message, and pretending.

Have a go at that.

You might wanna pause the screen while you do, and then we'll take feedback in a few moments time.

Off you go.

So here's an example of what you might have written as an answer to that paragraph explaining why it's unsafe to make new friends online.

You might have said, online safety is really important but can be challenging.

This is because lots of apps have communication tools like messaging, meaning that someone could contact us and ask for personal information even if we've never met them before.

If we don't know the person, then we shouldn't trust them and we should tell the trusted adult straight away.

It is also possible to be added to a group message online without asking to join.

This means that lots of people could share information with us that we might not want to see.

Finally, someone we are talking to online might be pretending to be someone else.

Even if they say they are our offline friend, they could be a stranger.

Therefore, it is unsafe to make new friends online because we don't know them offline.

Well done if you manage to use all of those words and get something a little bit like the example here.

Really well done and thank you for your work.

So we've come to the summary of the lesson now.

In a friendship, we should expect people to display positive behaviours including good communication, politeness, being truthful, and celebrating the success of others.

We can make new friends in a variety of different places such as youth groups and school by participating in extracurricular activities.

Here we can find mutual interests even if we don't see someone frequently.

It is not safe to make friends online as we never know who we are talking to.

We should always speak to a trusted adult if we ever feel safe online.

Lastly, we've got sources of support.

So we've got Childline, which is a website and a phone line which can offer confidential advice and support, and then we have CEOP, which helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.

Thank you ever so much for your work today.

Really well done.

I look forward to seeing you again soon for another lesson.

Take care of yourselves.