Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm going to be guiding you through today's learning.

Today's lesson is called Respecting Boundaries in Friendships, and it fits into the unit Healthy Relationships.

How can we have healthy boundaries? During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure.

So for this reason, we recommend that you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to explain how to respect personal boundaries.

Before we get started with today's learning, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means we're not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." This means we're not going to judge anyone for what they think, what they feel, or what they've experienced.

And Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We are now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are gonna pop up multiple times throughout today's lesson, so it's important that we have a good understanding of what each word means.

First of all, we have the word personal.

In this context, this means something to do with ourselves.

Boundary, this is an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow.

Maintain, in this context, this means putting in effort to keep a relationship healthy and working.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords, and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called, what are personal boundaries, and our second learning cycle is called, why is it important to Respect boundaries? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.

What are personal boundaries? Personal boundaries are like rules that we have for ourselves.

They can help us to decide how we act and how we respond to others.

We all have personal boundaries sometimes without even realising it.

It can be helpful to know what our personal boundaries are so that we can make healthy choices relating to our health and our relationships.

Laura's personal boundary helps her to make choices that feel good for her.

Laura says, "One of my personal boundaries is that I need quiet time after playing with friends.

My friends respect this because they're good friends and I feel better after it too." This boundary helps Laura to feel safe, comfortable, and happy.

Our personal boundaries aren't able to control how other people behave towards us.

However, they can help us to respond to how other people interact with us.

Here we have Sofia.

Sofia saying, "Can I give you a hug? I love hugs." But Aisha says, "No thanks, I don't like hugs, but we can high five instead." Aisha's boundary isn't able to stop Sofia from asking for a hug, but it does mean that Aisha knows how to respond if she's asked this question.

Instead of saying that she would like a hug, which would go against her boundary, she's asking for a high five instead, which would make her feel more comfortable.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing so far.

I'd like you to decide if this statement is true or false.

Personal boundaries control how other people behave towards us.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that our personal boundaries can't control how other people behave towards us, but it can help us to know how to respond to others so that we make choices that make us feel safe and comfortable.

Everyone's personal boundaries are slightly different.

Someone might have a boundary that they don't text people after 7:00 p.

m.

They might say, "I only like hugs from my family at home," or they might say, "I don't play with people online that I don't know offline." Everyone's boundaries are different.

Personal boundaries can relate to lots of different things.

For example, they may relate to our body.

So we may say something like, "Please don't touch me" or, "Please don't give me a hug." They might relate to the space that we need.

So someone might need some time alone or some personal space.

It might relate to how we feel.

So someone might say, "I'm not friends with people who make me feel bad about myself." And it could also relate to our time.

So we might have a boundary that says, "I only spend 30 minutes on my tablet every day." Healthy personal boundaries never try to control someone else's behaviour towards others.

They should also not try to control someone else's behaviour in a way that's unfair or unreasonable.

For example, it would be unreasonable to have a personal boundary that says, "Our friends are only allowed to play with us and not anyone else." For example, this boundary here, my personal boundary is that my friends are only allowed to play with me at break time and lunchtime.

This would be unreasonable because it controls someone else's behaviour in a way that doesn't impact us.

Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Which of these are examples of a healthy personal boundary? A, I don't share my feelings with people I don't know and trust.

B, other people must reply to my text in five minutes, otherwise I get upset.

Or C, after school, I need time to relax before I play with others or do homework.

Which of these are examples of a healthy personal boundary.

You might want to tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

These are examples of healthy boundaries because they relate to how we interact with others.

B would be an example of an unreasonable or unhealthy personal boundary because it tries to control other people's behaviour.

Well done if you said the same thing.

We're now moving on to your first practise task, and you're doing a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

For this task, I'd like you to answer each pupil's question.

Sam asks, "What are personal boundaries? Sofia asks, "Why are personal boundaries important?" And Alex asks, "What are some examples of personal boundaries?" Pause the video, and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

To answer Sam's question, which was what are personal boundaries, you might have said something like, personal boundaries are like rules that we have for ourselves.

They can help us to decide how we act and how we respond to others.

To answer Sofia's question, which was, why are personal boundaries important, you might have said something like personal boundaries can help us to make healthy choices relating to our health and our relationships.

They can also help us respond to the way that other people interact with us.

To answer Alex's question, which was, what are some examples of personal boundaries, you might have said that some examples of personal boundaries include not wanting to be touched, limiting the amount of time that we spend on devices, needing time alone, not being friends with people who make us feel bad about ourselves, or only playing or talking to people online that we know offline.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle.

Why is it important to respect boundaries? It's important to respect other people's boundaries, even if they're different from ours.

If someone's boundaries aren't treated with respect, this can make someone feel unhappy, unsafe, or uncomfortable.

Aisha says, "If someone hugs me even if I've said no, I feel sad and uncomfortable.

It makes me feel unsafe, and I don't trust that person anymore." Jacob says, "If someone touches my hair even if I've said that I don't want them to, it makes me feel disrespected and unhappy." And Lucas says, "I feel the same way if someone tries to push my wheelchair when I haven't asked for help." This is why it's really important that we respect each other's boundaries because it's important to not make someone feel disrespected or unhappy.

In healthy relationships, we should feel free to state our boundaries and for these to be respected.

Sofia says, "Can I give you a hug? I love hugs." and Aisha says, "No thanks, I don't like hugs, but we can high five instead." Because Sofia is a good friend, she's saying, "A high five sounds good to me.

Let's do it." She's respecting Aisha's boundary that she doesn't want to be hugged.

When we state our personal boundaries or behave in a way influenced by them, this maintains our boundary.

Jun says, "Do you want to come to mine after school?" But Lucas says, "No thanks, I need time to relax by myself after school." Lucas is maintaining his boundary that he needs some time to himself after school before he does anything else.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Can you decide which scenario shows Alex maintaining his personal boundary? Is it, A, Alex feels overwhelmed and needs some personal space? He says, "Could you step back from me, please, and give me some time to myself." Or scenario B, Alex feels overwhelmed and needs a personal space.

He doesn't want to hurt his friend's feelings, so he keeps playing the game.

Which of these scenarios shows Alex maintaining his personal boundary? Can you tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself? Well done if you said that A is correct.

Alex is maintaining his boundary by saying, "Could you step back from me, please, and give me some time to myself?" This shows Alex maintaining his boundary that he needs some personal space.

Well done if you got this right.

We should expect others to respect our boundaries, especially in healthy friendships.

Lucas says, "Jun is a good friend because he always respects my boundaries.

If I say that I don't want to go over to his house after school, he never makes me feel bad.

Instead, he suggests doing something at the weekend." This shows that Jun is a really good friend.

Unfortunately, there are some people who think that people who maintain their boundaries are overly sensitive, lack a sense of humour, or are just too serious.

They might say something like, "Anyone who maintains their boundaries is too sensitive.

So what if someone does or says something you don't like? Just deal with it." But this person might not realise how upsetting it is for them to ignore someone else's boundaries until perhaps someone ignores their boundaries.

Remember, everyone has personal boundaries even if they don't realise it.

They might not realise that everyone including themselves has different boundaries, and these are all equally deserving of respect even if people have different boundaries.

It's never okay to deliberately ignore someone's boundaries.

Maintaining and respecting boundaries has a positive impact on ourselves and others.

If someone's ignoring your personal boundaries, it's really important to tell a trusted adult like a parent, carer, or teacher.

Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing.

This time, is this statement true or false? People who maintain their boundaries are overly sensitive or lack a sense of humour.

What do you think? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that everyone has boundaries even if they don't realise it.

Everyone's boundaries are different and equally deserving of respect.

It's never okay to deliberately ignore someone's boundaries as this could make them feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or upset.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

When we maintain our boundaries, we show respect to ourselves, and this supports our physical and mental health.

Lucas says, "I know that if I go to Jun's house after school, I'll feel tired and grumpy because I need some time to relax on my own first.

I show respect to myself and my feelings by maintaining my own personal boundaries." When we maintain our boundaries, we also empower others to maintain their own boundaries too.

Here, Jun says, "When Lucas says that he needs time to relax after school, it makes me feel more confident in maintaining my boundaries too.

I only feel comfortable playing in a park close to home, and Lucas respects this." Good friends support each other to maintain their boundaries without making them feel bad or guilty.

Trying to encourage someone to do something that goes against their personal boundary is unkind, and it's a sign that someone might not be a supportive friend.

If someone is trying to change your personal boundary, this is a red flag, which suggests that the friendship or relationship might not be healthy, and it's really important to tell a trusted adult if this is happening.

Let's do another check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to decide, does this interaction show a supportive friendship? The first person says, "Try this new makeup that I just bought.

It'll amazing on you." The person they're talking to says, "No thanks, I don't wear makeup." And the first person says, "Oh, come on, it'll be fun.

Why don't you try it? You're being boring." Does this interaction show a supporter friendship? What do you think? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this doesn't show a supportive friendship, but can you explain why? You might have said that this person is not respecting their friend's personal boundary by making them feel bad for maintaining their boundary.

By saying that they're being boring by maintaining their boundary, they're not being a supportive friend.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our final practise task, and you've worked so hard already.

Well done.

For the first part of this task, I'd like you to name two feelings that Jacob might be feeling in this situation.

Someone says to Jacob, "Hey, Jacob, can I copy your Maths answers?" And Jacob says, "I really don't like sharing my answers." The person who was talking to him says, "Please, Jacob, stop being so serious.

It's only answers." Can you name two feelings that Jacob might be feeling here? Pause the video, and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

You might have said that Jacob might be feeling unhappy, unsafe, uncomfortable, or worried.

He may lose trust in his friend as they're not respecting his personal boundary.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

For the next part of this task, I'd like you to rewrite the conversation so that Jacob maintains his boundary and that his friend respects it.

So here, someone is asking Jacob, "Hey, Jacob, can I copy your Maths answers?" Can you decide what Jacob should say next and what the other person should say too if they're going to respect his boundary? Pause the video, and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Jacob could now say, "I don't share my answers, but I can help you work them out." And the other person who's now respecting their boundary says, "No problem, Jacob, thank you.

I appreciate your help." This person is now respecting Jacob's boundary.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

We are now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that personal boundaries can help us to make healthy choices for our health and relationships.

We've learned that everyone has personal boundaries and everyone's boundaries are different.

No one is being too sensitive or too serious by maintaining their boundaries.

Healthy relationships should respect boundaries and support people to maintain them, and it's never okay to ignore someone's personal boundaries.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions, and if you do, it's really important that you speak to a trusted adult about how you feel.

There's also some organisations on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work in today's lesson.

I'm really proud of you, and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.