Lesson video

Hello, my name is Ms. Willow, and I'm so excited to be teaching you today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called "Friends can disagree" and it fits into our unit "Healthy relationships: what makes a good friend?" I'm really excited to do some amazing learning with you today, so let's make a start.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to understand that friends may disagree and know ways to resolve disagreements.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels really comfortable throughout today's lesson.

We've got some friends to help us remember these ground rules.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

That means that if someone else is speaking, we're not going to interrupt them.

Andeep says we need to respect each other's privacy.

That means if someone chooses to share a story or an experience, we're not going to repeat that story outside of the lesson.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." That means if someone chooses to share a story in today's lesson, we're not going to judge them.

And Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

That means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We're now going to go through the keywords for today's lesson.

These words are really important because they're gonna come up quite a few times and we need to know what each word means.

I'm going to read each keyword, and when I do this, I want you to repeat it back to me.

Do you think you can do that for me? First of all, we have disagreement.

Then we have resolve.

Brilliant, disagreement is when two or more people have different ideas or opinions about something, and resolve means to find a way to fix a problem.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these words and see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

That means we're going to answer two questions in today's lesson.

Our first question is, what is a disagreement? And our second question that we'll answer is, how can we resolve a disagreement? We're now going to make a start on our first learning cycle, what is a disagreement? A disagreement is when two or more people have different ideas or opinions about something.

It means that they don't see things the same way or that they don't want the same thing.

Aisha says, "Andeep wanted to play tag but I wanted to play hide and seek.

We didn't want the same thing." Sam says, "I wanted to use the red colouring pencil for our drawing, but Sofia wanted to use the green.

We didn't see things the same way." Can you think of any more disagreement examples? You might want to talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or maybe you want to tell me if you can think of any more disagreement examples.

Fantastic, here we've got our friends to help us again.

Aisha says, "Andeep thinks his football team are better than the one that I support.

We don't see things the same way." And Sam says, "I wanted to play inside but Sofia wanted to play outside.

We disagreed about what we wanted to do." Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

Can you remember what is a disagreement? Is it A, when everyone agrees; B, when nobody talks; or C, when people have different ideas? What do you think? Can you remember? Talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or tell me.

Well done if you said that a disagreement is when people have different ideas.

If you got this right, you've done some brilliant listening, so well done.

Disagreements can make us feel lots of different emotions.

For example, we might feel upset or worried that our friend might not like us anymore if we have a disagreement.

We could feel pleased that we're playing what we want to.

We could feel cross or angry that no one's listening to us.

And maybe we feel a bit scared because our friends might be shouting if they have a disagreement.

How do disagreements make you feel? This might be something that you want to share with the person next to you, or you just might want to have a think to yourself.

Aisha says that "sometimes I feel cross when Andeep says that my football team is rubbish, but then I remember that it's okay to have different opinions." And Sam says, "I was worried that Sofia wouldn't like me anymore if I didn't play outside with her, but my teacher reminded me that it's okay to do different activities from your friends." Let's do another check for understanding.

Disagreements can make us feel, what? Can they make us feel, A, just sad; B, just angry; or C, lots of emotions? Can you remember? Talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself or tell me.

Well done if you said that disagreements can make us feel lots of different emotions.

You've been doing some brilliant listening so far, so keep it up.

We're now going to look at our friends Izzy and Jacob's disagreement.

Izzy says, "Let's play superheroes.

I want to be the fastest hero ever." But Jacob says, "But I want to play explorers and go on a treasure hunt." Izzy's then saying, "But superheroes are more fun." And now Jacob's saying, "I think treasure hunts are more fun." What do you think might happen next? Can you tell the people around you, have a think to yourself or maybe you want to tell me, what do you think is gonna happen next? Okay, let's have a look and see what happens in our story.

Izzy's now saying, "Hmm, maybe we can be superhero explorers.

We can find treasure and use our superpowers." And Jacob says, "That's a great idea.

Let's go on a mission." Friends can have different ideas, but by listening to each other, like Izzy and Jacob have done, they can find a way to play together and have fun.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Which of these images shows a disagreement? Is it A, B, or C? Can you see where a disagreement might be happening? Pause the video, look closely, and we'll see what the answer is in a minute.

Well done if you said that B is correct.

B shows two people having a disagreement over a teddy bear.

Well done if you looked closely and that you spotted this.

Now we're going to look at Jun and Alex's disagreement.

Jun says, "Let's sit next to each other at lunch." But Alex says, "I want to sit next to Laura today." Jun's saying, "But we always sit together." And Alex says, "I know, but I want to sit with Laura this time." What do you think might happen next? Can you talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself or tell me? Let's see what happens next in our story.

Jun says, "Okay, I'll sit with Lucas today and we can all play together after lunch." And Alex says, "That sounds great.

We can play a big game together." Do you think Jun and Alex are still friends? What do you think? Well done if you said yes, Jun and Alex are still friends.

Friends can want different things, but by respecting each other's decision, they can find a way for everyone to be happy.

Let's do another check for understanding.

You're doing a brilliant job so far, so keep it up.

Can you decide if this statement is true or false? Jun and Alex are still great friends after their disagreement.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself or tell me.

Well done if you said that it is true.

Jun and Alex are still great friends after their disagreement, but why? You might have said that friends don't always have to agree and it's okay to make different choices sometimes.

It doesn't mean that they aren't still great friends.

Well done if you got this correct.

This shows that you've been paying really close attention and listening carefully, brilliant job.

We're now moving on to your first practise task to see how you're doing so far with this learning cycle.

I'd like you to choose the correct word to complete each sentence about friendships and disagreements.

Our first sentence is disagreements means you can or can't be friends anymore.

Sentence two, this says it's not okay or okay to have different ideas from your friends.

Three, shouting and arguing will or will not help solve a disagreement.

And four, disagreements are not or are a normal part of friendships.

Five, finding a way to be fair makes everyone feel sad or happy.

And finally, six.

Asking a trusted adult for help with disagreements is okay or not okay if you need it.

Can you decide which word is correct in each sentence so that the sentences are correct? Pause the video and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what your completed sentences should look like.

Can you compare them with yours to see if you got it right? Sentence one should say disagreements mean you can be friends anymore.

Sentence two should say it's okay to have different ideas from your friends.

Sentence three should say shouting and arguing will not help solve a disagreement.

Sentence four, disagreements are a normal part of friendships.

Five, finding a way to be fair makes everyone feel happy.

And six, asking a trusted adult for help with disagreements is okay if you need it.

Well done if you got this correct.

We're now moving on to our second learning cycle and we're going to answer our second question.

How can we resolve a disagreement? Sometimes friends don't agree, and that's okay.

We can resolve disagreements in a kind and fair way by using kind words instead of shouting or arguing, speak calmly and listen to each other.

Listening to each other, let the other person share their idea just like you want to share yours.

Let's see how you're doing so far.

Can you remember one way to resolve a disagreement? And here we've got our two keywords too.

Which of these is one way to resolve a disagreement? Should we A, ignore each other; B, shout loudly; or C, take turns speaking? What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself or tell me.

Well done if you said that C is correct.

We can take turns speaking to resolve a disagreement.

Well done if you got this right, you've been paying really close attention so far and I can see that you're really listening too.

We can resolve disagreements in a kind and fair way by taking turns.

If you both want to do something different, you could try doing one thing first then the other.

You could find a new idea together.

You could think of a way to mix both ideas or try something new.

You could ask for help.

If you really can't agree, you could ask a trusted adult to help you to find a fair solution for everyone.

Disagreements happen sometimes, but when we work together, we can resolve them and still have fun.

We're now going to do another check for understanding to see how you're doing so far.

If two people want to play different games, what could they do to resolve their disagreement? Could they, A, play both games by taking turns; B, argue until one person gives up; C, stop playing and go home; or D, never speak to each other again? How could two people who want to play different games resolve their disagreement? Can you talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself or tell me? Well done if you said that A is correct.

They could resolve their disagreement by playing both games by taking turns.

This is a fair solution and makes everyone happy.

Okay, let's see what our friends have to say about how to resolve a disagreement in a kind and fair way.

Jun says, "Let's find a way that we both like." But Izzy says, "I don't care what you want.

I'm not playing with you anymore." Who's resolving the disagreement in a kind and fair way? Is it Jun or is it Izzy? Well done if you said that Jun is correct.

Jun and Izzy can resolve the disagreement by finding a way that we both like.

Jun's got the right idea here, as this is a kind and fair solution.

Let's move on to our final practise task.

Laura and Lucas are playing with blocks.

Laura says, "Let's build a tall tower." But Lucas says, "But I want to build a big castle." Can you help them to resolve their disagreement in a kind and fair way? Draw or write what they should do.

Pause the video and we'll go through the answer in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Laura and Lucas could resolve their disagreement in a kind and fair way by saying, Laura could say, "Let's build a tall tower," and Lucas is saying, "But I want to build a big castle." You might say that Laura says, "Why don't we build a tall castle with towers that reach the sky?" Lucas can then say, "I love the idea.

Then we find a way that we both like." Well done if you said something like this to resolve the disagreement.

Here, both Laura and Lucas are getting something that they want.

Laura is getting to build a tall tower like she wanted to do, but Lucas is also happy because he gets to build a big castle too.

Well done if you helped our friends to resolve their disagreement.

We're now going to summarise all the fantastic learning you've done in today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that friends can have different ideas and opinions or want to do different things, and that's okay.

Disagreements can cause various emotions.

For example, they can make us feel sad, confused, or worried, and if we feel this way, we should tell a trusted adult to get some help.

Discussing disagreements between friends calmly and kindly can help to resolve them.

And there are strategies to help resolve disagreements, like taking turns speaking and finding a way for both people to be happy.

You've done some fantastic learning today.

I'm really proud of you, of how hard you've worked and how well you've listened, and I really hope to see you in another lesson soon.