Hello.

I'm Mrs. O'Neill, thank you for joining me in today's sixth and final lesson in our intimate relationships, pregnancy and health unit.

For some people in heterosexual relationships, getting pregnant may be straightforward for others perhaps because of medical reasons or the fact that they are single or LGBT, an alternative way of having a baby is necessary, this lesson covers some of those other options, it's important to note, none of these options guarantee success in having a baby.

However, the fact that these alternative options exist, helps to make our society a more inclusive and equal one, you might also be interested in our Oak intimate relationships unit, which is also in the RSHE topic, that covers fertility and fertility treatment, let's get on with today's lesson.

So, this lesson is all about the alternative ways of having a baby it will cover aspects of sex education if this is a sensitive topic to you, we recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting or during the lesson with a trusted adult nearby, you are going to need an exercise book or piece of paper and a pen today if you haven't already please hop back and complete our introduction quiz before starting, we then going to consider adoption and fostering, surrogacy, egg or sperm donation, donor insemination and co-parenting all as alternative ways to have a baby and then I'll direct you to our exit quiz, so, let's consider our key words for today's lesson, we're going to be talking about adoption, which is when somebody or a couple, take legal with parental responsibility for the biological child of another person.

Surrogacy is when someone gives birth to a baby for a couple or individual, who can not have a child themselves.

Sperm or egg donation, allows childless couples or individuals to become pregnant, through the use of donor eggs or sperm.

And co-parenting when two or more people team up, to conceive and raise children together.

So, something really important to make clear at the start of this lesson, this lesson is about alternative ways to have a baby for single people of any sexuality for heterosexual couples, lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender couples or those who may choose to co-parent, so this lesson I hope you all understand is really inclusive and it's all about those alternative ways to have a baby for people who for whatever reason, the normal avenue of having a baby doesn't work out for them or in fact might not be the right choice for them.

So, thinking about our key words again, I would like you to write down, the correct definition from the options on the right for the words or terms adoption, co-parenting, surrogacy and donation, please pause the video to complete that task now and press play when you're ready to resume.

Fantastic, shall we see if you've got the right answers? So, adoption is when legal parental responsibility for a child is not one's own if given, co-parenting when two or more people team up to conceive and or raise a child, surrogacy when somebody gives birth for someone else and donation when someone is pregnant, using donor eggs or sperm now, they are really brief definitions, we're going to go through all of those key words in much more detail as we go through this lesson and first of all, we'll be looking at adoption, we'll also be looking at fostering as part of this section of the lesson.

There are some children who for a variety of reasons, may need to be placed in the care of a parent or a parent that is not biologically their own, the foster parents are people who officially take a child into their family for a period of time, without becoming the child's legal parents and that child would be referred to as their foster child.

Whereas adoption is a permanent arrangement, where the adoptive parents become the child's legal parents in the eyes of the law, taking on full parental responsibility, so, foster care may be simply a temporary arrangement, may last for a few days or it may be much more long-term but the parental responsibility, still lies with the biological parents in adoption that parental responsibility, goes with the adoptive parents, they become the legal parents.

So, true or false foster parents become the legal parents with full parental responsibility for the child in their care, true or false? Point to the screen now.

It is indeed false 'cause foster parents are people, who officially take a child into their family for a period of time without becoming their legal parent and the child is referred to as their foster child and it's with adoption that the parents take on the full, parental responsibility in the eyes of the law, so, what's the process, the process for adoption and fostering? So, single people or couples in the UK, can adopt or foster a child, they can apply to adopt or foster, through their local authority or through an agency and they may or may not already have children of their own and they may or may not have previously fostered or adopted other children, so, prospective foster or adoptive parents, would have to complete a rigorous assessment with the help of a social worker and preparation training, to ensure that they are right for the role and to ensure that children who are right for them are placed with them.

So, which statement is untrue, single people can apply to foster or adopt? Single people cannot apply to foster or adopt or all couples including LGBT couples, can apply to foster or adopt? Please point to the answer that is untrue now.

So, well done if you got this right, it is untrue to say that single people, cannot apply to foster or adopt they can.

So, let us now look at surrogacy, so, surrogacy is when someone has a baby for a couple or for an individual who could not have a child themselves for the intended father surrogacy can be a route, to having a child biologically related to them, so for example, the sperm of the father, may be used to impregnate the surrogate and that can be done through a clinic and can be done through medical procedure in some surrogacies where the prospective parents are a heterosexual couple that own egg and sperm are used to create an embryo, that is implanted into the surrogates uterus and that procedure is called IVF but what that would mean is that the surrogate was actually carrying a child, that was biologically not related to them.

So, I'd like you to just pause the video for a moment and define surrogacy in your own words.

Brilliant, hopefully you've done that now and you've defined surrogacy in your own words, let's just see if you mentioned, having a baby for someone else, making it possible to have a biological child of one's own, even if it's somebody outside of that couple or someone different you who is carrying that child.

A little bit more on surrogacy and the legalities of surrogacy, surrogacy is legal in the UK but it is illegal to advertise for a surrogate, the surrogate can have no financial benefit or that the reasonable expenses be paid, so, it's not something that somebody can do, to make a profit it is though okay for the prospective parents to pay the surrogate, reasonable expenses for their time and to compensate them for any financial loss, that they might incur through being the surrogate.

Now, the baby would not be legally the prospective parents, until a parental order has been issued, after the child's birth and until the order is issued, the surrogate has the rights to keep the baby.

So is surrogacy legal true or false? Point to the screen now.

It's true surrogacy is legal but remember it's illegal to advertise for surrogates and they can't be paid, although they can be given reasonable expenses, now, there's specialist agencies that can assist with the surrogacy process and they can assist with the medical side and the legal side to make sure that everything is in place and to make sure that the surrogacy is hopefully successful.

Let's move on now to look at egg or sperm donation and donor insemination, so for egg donation some people who wish to get pregnant, might physically be able to grow a foetus in their uterus but are unable to get pregnant themselves, there may be an issue with getting pregnant or an issue with their eggs now egg donation may help, so, egg donation is when a woman, goes through part of the IVF process, to have some of her eggs collected which can then be donated to somebody else's IVF treatment, so, that would mean an individual becoming pregnant, using the egg from another person from a donor.

Now, sometimes women might donate to somebody they know, such as a family member, who may be unable to use their own eggs or the people donate because they want to help someone, that they don't know have a much wanted baby, so, somebody will choose to donate eggs in the hope that that will help childless people, be able to have a baby.

So, I'd like to pause the video, I'd like you to copy and to complete this paragraph and I'd like you to please add in the words, where there is a gap, now, the missing words are listed at the bottom of the screen but they're jumbled up but they're there to help you so pause the video, copy and complete and press play when done please.

Wonderful, let's see if you've got the right answers, egg donation is when a woman, goes through part of the IVF process in order to have some of her eggs collected, which she can then donate to someone else's treatment in many cases women donate to someone they know, such as a family member, who may be unable to use her own eggs others donate as they want to help someone they don't know, have a much wanted baby.

So, sperm donor insemination, this is when donated sperm is put inside the person, that's going to carry the baby and that person might be single or in a relationship, so, donor insemination can be performed at home, using sperm from a person known to them or at a fertility clinic using an anonymous donor and it is better to go to a licenced clinic, where the sperm is screened, it ensures that the sperm is free from sexually transmitted infections and certain genetic disorders and the clinic will have on-hand the support and the legal advice available, to ensure that the process is smooth and is successful in terms of ensuring that all the legalities, all the different considerations, have been taken into account.

So, if you're trying to get pregnant, using sperm donor insemination is it best to go to a licenced clinic, true or false? Point to the screen to the correct answer.

That is indeed true because as we've previously said, the sperm will be screened for sexually transmitted infections for certain genetic disorders and the support and legal advice will be available and our final alternative way of having a baby, that we're going to discuss today is co-parenting, so, this is when more people team up to conceive and parent children together, so for example, that might be a single woman and two men in a homosexual relationship, who all wish to be parents.

Now, co-parent will not have sole custody of the child, so it's advisable to get legal advice at an early stage of the planning, so that all the details can be worked out, such as what role each parent will take, how financial cost will be split and the degree of involvement, that each will have with the child.

So, I would like you to summarise your learning from today's lesson in a mind map, what I'm giving you here is an example of how you might set this out, you might decide to set it out with the different ways, that we've talked about, surrogacy, co-parenting, donation adoption and fostering, what you might choose to do, set it out with each of those four branches and then off those branches add one, two or even three, different things you can remember, about each of those different ways of having a baby, so, I'd like you to pause the video now and complete that task please then press play when done.

Wonderful, thank you so much for completing that task, which is now towards the end of our lesson, it brings us to our final reflection, so, what are the positives that arise from the fact, that there are several alternative ways of having a baby? Can you think of any, any positives? And keep those in mind as you get older and you yourself, whether it be family members, friends may experience, a situation where having a baby, through what might be considered the normal way, a man and a woman together having a baby and it being, relatively complication free just is impossible, that might be because the relationship is same sex, it might be because pregnancy doesn't happen for that couple through perhaps an explained medical reason or you've got no known reason, why is it positive, that there are these alternative ways for them? Keep this in mind because it might be something you draw on in the future, I just like to say, I'm really pleased, that you've joined me on this unit, which has all been about intimate relationships, pregnancy and parenting, we've gone from looking at finding out you're pregnant and going through the testing process, through looking at what to do if you aren't sure if having a baby is the right decision and looking at what abortion is, we've gone on to look at pregnancy loss, through miscarriage and stillbirth, we've looked at pregnancy itself and labour, now, we've looked at alternative ways of having a baby, it's been quite a journey, I do have you the reflect on these lessons in the future if they are relevant to you at any time, thank you again for joining me, don't forget to complete today's exit quiz and I hope to see you on some other Oak lessons on various topics under the banner of RSHE, thank you, goodbye.