Hello there everyone, my name's Ms. Shaw.

I'm really pleased you're joining me today for this lesson in which we will be focusing on domestic violence.

For this lesson, we'll focus on domestic violence, including a definition of what domestic violence is, the law and statistics surrounding it.

Examples of different aspects of domestic violence within different kinds of relationships and how we can recognise domestic violence situations and seek help and support for it.

Now, this lesson does cover sensitive topics, and therefore we recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting or doing the lesson with a trusted adult nearby.

So for this lesson, you are going to need an exercise book or some paper.

You will also need a pen and obviously your brains for a lot of thinking.

Hopefully you've already completed your intro quiz.

So firstly, we were going to look at domestic abuse or violence and the law in the UK relating to it.

We'll then look at the potential impact of future relationships of domestic violence and how we can seek support and report concerns.

Finally, you'll complete the key learning points and your exit quiz.

So to recap from some prior learning, two of these keywords were covered in previous lessons.

I would like you to choose the correct ones.

Like you to pause here while you complete this activity and then return when you've done.

So were you correct? Rape refers to forcing someone to have sex when they are unwilling and, or do not have the capacity to consent so to give permission for you do that, and harassment describes any kind of ongoing torment without the victim giving permission or wanting to get to happen.

Now, the other two keywords, which were domestic violence and abuse, we're going to be looking at in more detail in today's lesson.

So the key words for today's lesson are domestic violence describes violence or any sort of abuse behaviour that occurs within the home.

Abuse refers to treating someone cruelly or violently, and especially on a repeated or regular basis.

And the law refers to the UK rules and regulations that we have in place.

So in this first section, we're going to look up what domestic abuse or domestic violence is, and the UK laws relating to it.

So what do you think domestic violence is? And what is the law relating to it? I'd like you to pause here just to consider these two questions and then return when you've jotted a few ideas down.

So how do your answers compare with mine? Well, with regards to domestic violence, this can include anything violent, including hitting, slapping, kicking, biting, punching, it might be emotional.

So somebody's humiliating someone or threatening them or intimidating them, or making them feel scared, et cetera.

It could relate to sexual violence.

So forcing someone into sexual activity without them giving consent.

It could also apply to isolating someone and separating them from their friends and family and not allowing them to live their life as free as they would like to.

And also, financially controlling people.

Now, the law in the UK as it stands, the domestic violence, crime and victims act of 2004, applies to England and Wales and Northern Ireland in part, but not to Scotland.

Domestic violence is a criminal offence.

And the law states that domestic violence or abuse can be physical, psychological, sexual, financial or emotional.

Now it's important to recognise here that whilst evidence suggests that most abuse in relationships is perpetrated by men against women.

It's really important to understand that it can happen in any relationship.

So in a heterosexual relationship where the female is the abuser, and also as well as within the LGBTQ plus community and relationships in that situation.

What I would like to do now is look at the following statements about historical law relating to relationships and work out which one is false.

So pause the video now, have a read through and try and choose which one you think is incorrect.

So were you correct? The 1895 curfew on wife beating, which was the city of London bylaw, was actually between 10:00 PM and 7:00 AM.

So basically, wife beating was prohibited between the hours of 10:00 PM and 7:00 AM so that the neighbours weren't kept awake by the noises.

Well, we know from earlier slides in the lesson that the law relating to domestic violence has changed, and in today's society, those behaviours are not acceptable.

However, that doesn't mean that they don't still go on.

What we're going to look at next is the difference between abusive behaviour and having a normal, healthy disagreement.

Now, what I'd like you to do is to pause the video here and try and make a list of as many differences between abusive behaviour and having a normal, healthy disagreement you can think of and then return once you've completed that activity.

How does your life compare with mine? Well, the differences between abusive behaviour, as we've listed previously, in other lessons, abusive is to do with violence and hitting, slapping, kicking, biting, punching, maybe there's emotional fear, humiliation, threatening behaviour, belittling people, intimidating them and putting them down.

Perhaps that's isolating them from their family and friends and support networks and potentially can be sexual, forcing them to engage in sexual activities without their consent.

Whereas in a normal relationship, everybody's going to bicker from time to time, we're all individuals and living together with other individuals in houses, in situations, working with them for example, going to school, et cetera, you're going to have differences of opinions and occasionally, emotions will get involved and people will end up arguing.

However, if you can be respectful when you are bickering and you can negotiate and try and work out a resolution to the issue or to the problem.

And you're able to express your views and opinions without any fear of being threatened.

And there's no implied threats involved and there's no winner or loser, we just agree to disagree.

That's a normal, healthy disagreement.

The other, as we've said about the abusive behaviour, is not normal and not appropriate and should not be going on.

So relationship abuse facts, according to the DFE's Disrespect Nobody Campaign, is when one person hurts or bullies their partner or their ex partner or someone who is in the same family.

And the abuser is always responsible.

Nobody else is to blame.

It can happen between people who are married and people who are maybe just going out with each other, or people who live together and have children together.

And it can happen when people live together or separately.

So even though, as we've said before, women are often the victims of abuse, more often, men can also be victims and can often find it harder to seek help.

Abuse is often a repeated pattern of a behaviour within relationships.

And it can include many different types of abusive behaviour, including physical, emotional, sexual, financial abuse, sometimes all at once.

It's not just one of these standalone issue.

And abusers can use both emotional and physical abuse to control other people that they form a relationship with.

So I want you to think here, which of the following statements about abuse is false.

So have a read through and choose which one you think is the incorrect statement.

Pause the video here, and then come back when you finished.

I'm hoping that you chose option one.

So abuse can happen between people of any age, race, gender, nationality, religion, or family background.

It can happen in same sex relationships.

And in relationships involving a trans person, and it can be physical, emotional, sexual, mental, or financial.

Unfortunately, abuse can happen again, even after a relationship has ended.

So in this next section, we're going to look at a potential impact of domestic abuse on future relationships.

So how can relationship abuse affect the person who is being abused? What I'd like to do here is to pause the video and make a list of suggestions and then come back when you've completed it.

So how did your list compare with mine? Well, some of the ways I selected that a relationship abuse could affect the person who's being abused, is that they're isolated and become lonely.

It can have a negative impact on their emotional and mental health and wellbeing.

They can become anxious and depressed.

They can end up with really low self-confidence, they can end up with feelings of guilt or shame, like it's their fault and they they've encouraged this, or they've allowed this to happen.

And they don't know how to stop it.

So in this final section, we're going to look at how to recognise potential warning signs of domestic abuse and how we can seek help and support.

So I'd like you to look at the following statements and have a think about which ones you think are warning signs that someone might be in an abusive relationship.

I'd like to pause the video here and then return when you've completed the task.

So did you get them right? Well, some people think that relationship abuse is just about violence, where people are being forced into doing things that they don't want to do, but that's not always the case.

There's many different types and ways that people can be abused within relationships and all of them are serious and all of them should be taken seriously as well.

Sometimes you might not even realise that you are being abused in that relationship.

So if somebody is isolating you away from your family or friends or demanding to know where you are at all times and monitoring your calls or potentially looking at your emails or your messages, or if they're threatening to spread rumours about you or pressuring you into doing uncomfortable things, and perhaps they're name calling or putting you down and threatening to self-harm themselves if you leave.

Perhaps they're forcing you into sexual acts or behaving violently towards you, that's often easier to identify and pick out, but all of these different things are types of relationship abuse.

Protecting them, so protecting you and being respectful during an argument and being considerate of your feelings and your opinions are not ways.

So with regards to getting help and support, which of the following do you think is not a good option to seek help and support? So have a look through these options here and choose which one you think you should not do.

Hopefully those option four.

An abusive relationship is not okay and it's not normal, and if it is happening to you, then you are not to blame.

It might feel like you're alone and that you're worried about getting help and speaking up about it, but you're not alone, and you deserve to be safe.

Standing up to and confronting your abuser on your own is not a good idea.

Reaching out and speaking to a trusted adult, such as a teacher or a family member or your GP, school nurse, or a youth worker, or the police, anybody that you trust that you know will have your back, or if you're in immediate danger or someone that you know is in immediate danger, then you can call 999.

You can also access and or contact online agencies or charities for their advice and support as well.

Remember, it is not normal to experience relationship abuse, and it's never okay, and it is definitely not healthy.

Now, remember that abuse, isn't always physical.

It can be emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual abuse too.

And it's possible that you're in an abusive relationship if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, controlled or intimidated, but you should remember that you are not to blame.

And there are people who can help you if you're currently experiencing abuse, or even if you have done in the past, and it's still impacting on your life now.

Anger, jealousy, alcohol, or claiming that they wanted to protect the other person.

These are not excuses.

There is never an excuse for abuse within any relationship.

The key learning point from this lesson are that it is against the law to abuse anyone and penalties will apply.

There is a difference between normal, healthy disagreements and abuse within relationships.

And it's important to be able to recognise the signs of an abusive relationship.

Getting help and support is vital.

Now what I'd like you to do now, is to complete your exit quiz to check your understanding of the content of this lesson.

Well done on completing the third lesson in this unit.

I hope you've enjoyed working with me today.

And I look forward to seeing you again in future lessons.

Bye for now.